Facebook as therapy

Read an interesting blog  article today about Facebook and its role in healing old wounds.

If you don’t already have a Facebook account, I can tell you essentially what FB is.  It is a major means of procrastination a social networking site which is based on linking people’s old and new contacts together.  In my own FB wanderings I have met a number of acquaintances and friends from high school.

Anyway, the article talks about how FB was a help to the author in healing old wounds from college, where apparently the author felt he was a nerd and was treated as such.  After reacquainting himself with his college associates, he found that many of them had matured and that he was able to get along well with them.

This resonated with me because I had the same experience with FB.  I was in the nerd crowd in high school (mostly due to my partial  hearing deficit and religious beliefs at the time which made me stand out).  However, time marched on and it appears that I and the people I knew in high school changed.   I learned this because I hooked up again with my high school friends and asssociates through FB and found that a general rule that I believe in really is true.

Unless you really consciously  draw attention to yourself in a negative way, 90% of the time, people have their own melodrama to worry about.  Don’t get me wrong, people care about you (or not), but they don’t spend every waking hour worrying about you.  This is helpful because it takes much of the burden of carrying relationships off of y0u.

So anyway, FB turned out to be healing for me as well, as I had a pretty negative experience in high school.  In my 40’s now, I find that I can have a civil discourse with those I didn’t get along with, I am findng that I get along with others a lot better than I thought I did back then,  and I am finding friendships existed where I thought they didn’t exist before.

Hope some of this made sense, as I am writing this at a weird hour of the morning.

My question to you is:  how has the Internet been helpful to you in healing old wounds?

About Nate Prentice, MSW, LCSW, CAS-PC

Nate Prentice, MSW, LCSW is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Pastoral Counselor who maintains a private psychotherapy practice in Drexel Hill, PA.
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2 Responses to Facebook as therapy

  1. PiperChicki says:

    I actually find facebook rather annoying.
    I was an overseas “brat”, whose dad was stationed in Germany. I had an okay high-school social experience, and a *meh* college social experience. The people I reconnected with on Facebook were often mired in the past with “Remember how good things were when we lived in Germany? Yeah… those were goods times.” conversations.
    Well, they were times, but what you’re doing now is cool, too, right? Tell me about that.
    I know there have been psych studies done on military and missionary brats, but I wonder if anyone has looked at how these people use facebook and classmates.com, and if it differs between us and the non-brats types.

  2. nateprentice says:

    I was a Navy brat, myself. Can’t help it if we are superior than you Army guys. 😉

    I mostly went to school stateside, but spent two years in Rota, Spain.

    Actually, my crowd seems to talk more about the present. I’m surprised that they really don’t talk about the old times. I guess because they have been using the Internet for a long time and have already “talked out” the old times.

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