Read an interesting blog article today about Facebook and its role in healing old wounds.
If you don’t already have a Facebook account, I can tell you essentially what FB is. It is a major means of procrastination a social networking site which is based on linking people’s old and new contacts together. In my own FB wanderings I have met a number of acquaintances and friends from high school.
Anyway, the article talks about how FB was a help to the author in healing old wounds from college, where apparently the author felt he was a nerd and was treated as such. After reacquainting himself with his college associates, he found that many of them had matured and that he was able to get along well with them.
This resonated with me because I had the same experience with FB. I was in the nerd crowd in high school (mostly due to my partial hearing deficit and religious beliefs at the time which made me stand out). However, time marched on and it appears that I and the people I knew in high school changed. I learned this because I hooked up again with my high school friends and asssociates through FB and found that a general rule that I believe in really is true.
Unless you really consciously draw attention to yourself in a negative way, 90% of the time, people have their own melodrama to worry about. Don’t get me wrong, people care about you (or not), but they don’t spend every waking hour worrying about you. This is helpful because it takes much of the burden of carrying relationships off of y0u.
So anyway, FB turned out to be healing for me as well, as I had a pretty negative experience in high school. In my 40’s now, I find that I can have a civil discourse with those I didn’t get along with, I am findng that I get along with others a lot better than I thought I did back then, and I am finding friendships existed where I thought they didn’t exist before.
Hope some of this made sense, as I am writing this at a weird hour of the morning.
My question to you is: how has the Internet been helpful to you in healing old wounds?