“The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.”
This sums up a lot of what I try to do in couples therapy. So many couples are comprised of people who have gotten so lost in their partner’s head that they lose track of the fact that they are separate individuals with separate needs. About 50% of the time, I try to help these couples learn this simple truth and help them to detach so that they can renegotiate their relationship.
If you are married (or if you aren’t), meditate on this simple slogan.